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Dividing Retirement Benefits in Divorce

Often the most significant assets to be divided in a divorce are retirement benefits. These valuable assets come in several forms.

1.     DEFINED BENEFIT PENSION plans such as teacher's retirements, state and local governments pensions, autoworkers pensions and other large corporate and union pensions.

2.     DEFINED CONTRIBUTION plans such as 401-k, 403-b plans and IRA's.

3.      MILITARY, FEDERAL GOVERNMENT AND THRIFT SAVINGS PLANS.

A Judgment of Divorce and/or divorce agreement will state the manner in which these assets are to be allocated or divided and direct that one party must pay a certain portion to the other spouse, judgments and agreements do not, by themselves, cause the distribution to take place.

After a  divorce is final a special court order is needed to actually cause the distribution. A Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO) or a Domestic Relations Order (DRO) is needed to legally and administratively transfer a portion of a pension or 401-k earned from one spouse to the other spouse.

For defined benefit pensions a QDRO or DRO is needed to insure that when the pension plan participant retires, five, ten or more years in the future, the spouse or alternate payee actually receives their share directly from the pension administrator.

Also, be aware that just because you retained an attorney to represent you in your divorce, does not mean that your former divorce lawyer is responsible for or will actually prepare these special post-divorce orders. Many divorce lawyers do not prepare these orders and if they do they require a separate retainer agreement and payment.

If you have questions regarding the preparation of a DRO or QDRO please call me. I have been preparing these orders for many years and have the experience needed to do so competently, efficiently and sometimes most importantly promptly. www.vahllaw.com.

DO NOT wait until your former spouse retires because so many things can happen before that occurs that will make the preparation of the order more difficult or impossible.

Your former spouse may remarry, relocate, change jobs, take an early retirement incentive plan in a lump sum or your former spouse may even die. If your former spouse dies before retirement and has designated a new spouse or other person the beneficiary, a costly lawsuit may be needed and there are so many different circumstances that a lawsuit may not even be successful.

CARL R. VAHL, EMAIL:  CARLVAHLESQ@MSN.COM

The Perfect Spring Meal

This is my third post on my new blog. I wrote a blog several years ago when I was attempting to transition from lawyer to Italian Chef. The Journey Continues. My last post was September 13, 2013. During the 3 years of writing The Journey Continues I generated 778 followers and 40,753 hits. I continue to get hits even when I have not posted for 1.5 years. Writing is therapeutic and fun and keeps me from watching too much TV so I am going back to it. I may even cancel my cable TV service.

My fist two posts were law related. Scroll down and read if you will. I will continue about legal topics and if you have legal questions leave it in the comments section and I will answer.

I decided however not to write exclusively about law. I want to make this blog light and fun to read so I am going to add food related posts. This is my first food post and I want to present, what to me, constitutes the Perfect Spring meal. Since a picture says a 1000 words and we all begin a great meal with our eyes here are 5 photo's which together create a perfect Spring meal. The colors, the mix of favors, ingredients and tastes. Enjoy.

Roasted red beets layers with smoked fish and cream cheese.

Tomato, sweet red pepper and sweet pea salad.

Buffalo Mozzarella, tomato and basil dressed with evoo.

The Ultimate fire grilled cheese burger.

Fresh Swedish wild strawberry tart.


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DIVORCE WITHOUT DISASTER

Divorce is something I have done a lot of during the past 30 years. I estimate that I have worked on several thousand divorces representing approximately an equal number of women and men. During my first ten years of practice I remember that most divorces related specifically to instances of infidelity. While infidelity is still a major factor more and more it seems that previously content spouses grow apart. 

CHANGE, CHANGE CHANGE

Couples who married in their early to mid twenties go through a great deal of personal changes during the first five to ten years of marriage. Jobs change, interests change, bodies change, likes and dislikes change. Once children come along both parents tend to focus on them rather than each other. Often, resentment and jealously arises but rather than dealing with these issues as a couple, spouses tend to isolate themselves from the other and give higher priority to their personal interests rather than the joint interests that were the focal point of their lives before children. They start doing more things separately. Communication becomes more and more difficult and begins to center on each others deficiencies. Job and money stress, meddling family members, weight gain and caring around the clock for small children all create obstacles to a successful marriage.

                                                                         SPOUSES DO NOT RUSH TO DIVORCE

I hate it when so called experts claim that people take marriage too lightly or that spouses rush to get divorced over minor issues. In my experience that thinking is totally wrong. I find that the vast majority of divorcing spouses have stayed together long after their marriage should have been declared dead. People delay the inevitable much more often than rushing into divorce.  

One thing I have learned from aiding thousands of persons through the divorce process is that it is almost always better on a personal and financial level to divorce sooner rather than later. 

Once one spouse determines that the marriage is NOT going to work they should begin the process of separation in a cooperative  manner rather than simply sticking their head in the sand and enduring, which is what most couples do, often for years before the decision to divorce is acted on. Infidelity is more often than not a symptom of a poor marriage rather than the cause of a poor marriage. 

Moving on is the only way to end the suffering and begin the process of establishing a new, better life.

       DIVORCE DOES NOT NEED TO BE A DISASTER

Moving forward toward divorce in a thoughtful and respectful manner is possible and doing so before communication breaks down completely, such as after an instance of infidelity, is beneficial to both spouses, the children, the families and the pocket book. 

Fighting in court. Struggling against each other for possession of the children and property is not the only way to divorce. In my experience two quality lawyers or a competent mediator can almost always assist spouses in coming to a fair resolution in a fraction of the time and a fraction of the cost of a court battle. 


  

Over the next several months I will write about many of the most common issues that come up in divorces. 

• How New York law regulates the division of marital property. 
• When a spouse is entitled to financial support.
• How child support is determined.

These are some of the most common and most difficult issues that need to be addressed. Doing so in a cooperative manner will almost always help both spouses transition to a new and better life.

WELCOME TO MY NEW BLOG!

Welcome to my new blog. I plan to use these pages to discuss legal topics relevant to individuals and smaller businesses in the Southern Tier of Western New York, focusing on Cattaraugus and Allegany Counties.

Enchanted Mountains of Western New York

Cattaraugus County Courthouse
Little Valley New York

The types of legal issues to be addressed over the coming months will include personal and family related legal issues such as divorce, elder law and planning, real estate, wills and estate law and general practice matters such as Health Care Proxies, Powers of Attorney and estate planning.

Allegany County Courthouse
Little Valley New York

 I will only discuss areas of the law which I have focused on during my 30 years of legal practice.  During those 30 years I have represented literally thousands of clients and tried cases in Allegany, Cattaraugus and Chautauqua Counties as well as numerous appeals in Rochester New York.

We have a great deal to be thankful for in our community. There is beautiful scenery, numerous places of worship, a large number of parks and recreation areas and many wonderful people. We have establishments of higher education, major manufacturing facilities and active Chambers of Commerce and business groups.

St. Mary of the Angels

 But whenever and wherever people live, work and play important and significant legal issues arise which unless addressed, typically do resolve themselves.

 Also I encourage readers to ask me questions which I will try to answer within 48 hours. There will be no charge for having your question answered so feel free to email me. carlvahlesq@msn.com

Do not hesitate to check out my websites which provide important information of the areas of law which I handle and how to best protect your legal interests.

 VAHLLAW.COM 

PEACEMAKER MEDIATION

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Carl R. Vahl